Diary of a Wimpy Mom…. When you Fear your Best Dream!

Chapter 1: When you fear your best dream!

Parents wish the best for their kids. Parents work hard in raising their kids, preparing them for 18 years before they let them fly into the world. I did too.

“And that last 18 years of upbringing will be put to test in 18 days and I’m scared!” 

As a parent, I always wished to get my kids into a 4-year college degree for a better life. Getting my first daughter admitted into a college of her choice, was almost like a dream come true. We felt accomplished. We celebrated! But then this summer, before her college journey begins, it started to sink in. She will be leaving the nest and flying away. Today morning I woke up knowing that she will be gone in exact 18 days from now! Now I’m wondering if I had wished for something else. I have started hating my dream. Why?

I’ll miss her like crazy. I can’t imagine my life without her. My main job as a parent has been to protect her and teach her.

“I’m far from a perfect parent but I’m not ready to lose this job just yet.”

I’m scared if she is ready for the world that may not be kind to her. Have I prepared her enough to make the right decisions? Will she be able to balance her learning and social life? I haven’t learned yet how to balance work and life. I’m not sure if at a tender age of 18 years, she can. Will she be able to push back on her peer, not give into the pressure and do something she may regret for a long time? I don’t know. It’s my test as a mom and educator.

So far, whether it was a toddler tantrum or a meltdown in high school, I have been there to hug her and comfort her. Whether it was a scratch from falling from a bicycle or small dent in her first car, I was there to reassure her that everything will be alright. Whether it was a nasty eczema in elementary school or scrapes and cuts from someone pushing her down the stairs in middle school, I was there to get her the best of best resources. And now – I will not see any of that.

“I know she won’t tell me any meltdowns, or accidents or scrapes.”

I won’t be there to help her or hug her. In regular phone call, there will be a lot to talk about and both of us will hide our pain, knowing that other person is 10 hours away and can’t do much anyway.

She will be in a completely strange city, in a strange building with absolutely 100% strangers that she has never met in her life. I’m scared for her. Even if she is absolutely fine, I’ll be speculating that there is something wrong and she is just not telling me, even if everything is alright.  

“My mind is already contemplating the worst-case scenarios.”

I’m already planning that in case of emergency, how I will drop everything, book a ticket, sit through excruciatingly painful 10 hours and finally see her in person. It will feel like eternity!

She is packing her bags and I’m bracing for the biggest turbulence in my life. How will I leave her at her dorm and just walk away? I’m already feelings million stabs in my heart and a sinking feeling in my stomach. I’ve been already crying quietly in my pillow. I feel so helpless. It’s hard for me to see that how this is the best thing for her and how this is cycle of nature. Only thing I can feel right now that when I walk in her bedroom, she just won’t be there. Only moment that comes to memory is when my dad left me at my dorm exact 33 years ago in the same month of August before my 16th birthday. That day, I felt stabbing in my heart and sinking feeling in my stomach. I still remember the surrounding smell, sounds and heavy rain that day. That day is etched in my memory.

And I know the day I leave my daughter at her dorm in 18 days, will be etched in my memory with much deeper cuts.

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